Primary Care Giver with too many other opinions coming in (that differ)
Being a primary caregiver is incredibly challenging. You’re constantly trying to make the best decisions for your loved one, especially when they’re struggling with memory loss and frustration. It becomes even more stressful when well-meaning family members offer differing opinions on care. The barrage of advice, though intended to be helpful, often leaves you feeling overwhelmed and inadequate.
For instance, my cousin, a registered nurse, is extremely concerned about my aunt’s medication management. She worries incessantly about missed doses and skipped meals, fearing that my aunt might accidentally take too much pain medication or acetaminophen. Her suggestion is that my aunt should either be in an assisted living facility or have someone living with her full-time to monitor her health closely. While I understand and appreciate her medical perspective, my priority has always been to alleviate my aunt’s severe pain and ensure her remaining years are comfortable. I know my aunt values comfort and quality of life over prolonging her life at any cost. It’s not that my cousin’s concerns are unfounded, but our perspectives and approaches to care differ significantly. I also live a country next door and am over a few times a day. My aunt still is capable of calling me anytime she needs assistance and easily feels guilty for…
